If I got a dollar for every time I heard, "Better you than me", "I feel sorry for you", or the ever sarcastic, "Lucky you...", I would be a rich RICH woman. Just for the record... this is NOT something that any Twin Mommy wants to hear.
First of all... I feel like I am the most blessed woman in the entire world because GOD chose me to be the mother of two of the most beautiful identical twin boys in the world! I don't know a single twin mom that wakes up in the morning and thinks, Oh my gosh... i can't believe I have to put up with those two brats again today! Seeing my babies interact with each other, and knowing that they will forever more have a best friend by their side, makes me so incredibly happy.
Secondly... I know that it is really cool that I have identical twins... and yes I know that they are super cute... duh... they look like their mommy! anyway... when we are out in public... I don't need your input on how you don't know how I survive with two babies. And I don't need you to stop me in the middle of Wal-Mart and talk to me for 30 minutes about how your sisters' husbands' best friends girlfriend had twins... and now they hate each other. Why would you think I would want to know that? And if you know how hard it is with one baby... you know how much time is of the essence when you are in between nap time and supper. So smile, catch a quick glance... maybe even a "how cute", but please keep walking. We're not a walking amusement park. Maybe I should start charging admission...
Lastly... please oh please don't tell me how to be a mother, or shoot snotty glances at me because you think that I'm too young to have babies. Just because I look like I'm 16... I'm not. No I don't always wear makeup, and I wear yoga pants more than jeans... but they're a lotttt easier get down in the floor and play in. And the reason I'm at Wal-Mart alone is because my husband works his butt off so I can stay at home with my babies, so I can go to school to make a better life for them. And yes... I'm MARRIED... have been for 5 years. No... I don't have a ring on because I had it sent off to be resized because it no longer fits... because I'm not perfect and held on to some baby weight. I'm sorry my babies aren't always perfectly behaved and occasionally let out a blood curdling scream that could wake the dead. But I know that I am giving them everything they could ever need... and love them more than any mother could ever love her children.
My babies are my entire world... and it drives me absolutely insane some of the stuff people say and some of the looks I get. Please, the next time you see a mommy of twins, or a mommy that looks like she is having a bad day because her little one may not be acting quite as well as they should... instead of shooting them a look, talking behind their back, or saying "Better you than me," smile, and give a quick, "You're So Blessed" or even a "Jesus Loves You." Being a twin mommy is exhausting... but one of the most rewarding and wonderful experiences I have ever been given!
